Are Spirits Always Around You?

An Honest Guide from My Experience as a Psychic Medium

If I had a pound for every time I’ve been asked, “Are spirits always with me?”, I’d probably be giving readings from a beach somewhere by now.

It’s one of the most common questions I hear — whether I’m working at a psychic supper, doing a public demonstration, or sitting with someone in a one-to-one reading.

The question almost always comes from the same place: love. People want to know that their mum, dad, partner, child, or friend hasn’t just vanished into nothingness. They want to believe those bonds are still intact. And I understand that — I really do — because I’ve seen, again and again, that love doesn’t end with death.

But here’s the thing: the answer isn’t as simple as some might make it sound. And, because I work in a direct and straight-to-the-point way, I’m not going to give you a sugar-coated “they’re here all the time” answer just to make you feel better in the moment.

The Real Answer

No — spirits aren’t standing beside you every minute of every day.
That’s not how the spirit world works.

But that doesn’t mean you’re alone. Far from it. Spirit isn’t bound by time or distance in the way we are, so when your loved ones want to be with you — whether that’s in the middle of a wedding, on a quiet Sunday morning, or during a sleepless night — they can be there instantly.

Think of it like having a loved one who lives abroad: they might not physically be in your house every day, but they’re only ever a phone call away — except in spirit’s case, that “phone call” is instant.

When Spirits Tend to Come Close

Over the years, I’ve noticed definite patterns in the moments when spirits seem to draw near.

1. Celebrations and Milestones

Weddings, new babies, anniversaries, birthdays, graduations — these are moments when spirit often wants to join in. I’ve had readings where a spirit will say something like, “Did you see the way you tripped over your dress on the dance floor?” or “I was next to you when you cut the cake”.

Those little details — the ones you didn’t share with anyone — are their way of saying, “I was there.”

2. Times of Challenge or Sorrow

Grief, illness, breakups, big life changes — these are often moments when you feel their presence strongest. I’ve had clients describe it as a “warm blanket” feeling, or as if someone’s arms were wrapped around them, even though no one was there physically.

Once, during a demonstration, a woman’s late father stepped forward to say, “Tell her she’s not walking into that meeting alone”. She later told me she’d been dreading a difficult work conversation — and she walked in that day feeling strangely confident.

3. Quiet, Ordinary Moments

It’s not always the big events. Sometimes spirit steps in when you least expect it — when you’re folding laundry, driving home, or just staring out of the window.
Our minds are so busy most of the time that we miss subtle connections. But in these quieter moments, you might notice a song on the radio, a sudden memory, or even feel like someone is standing just behind you.

4. Special Dates and Anniversaries

The date of their passing, their birthday, or even a shared holiday can be a natural “bridge” between you and them. Many people tell me they feel their loved one’s presence on those days without even realising why at first.

The Many Ways Spirit Shows Up

Signs can be big or small, subtle or unmistakable. Over the years, people have told me about:

Temperature shifts — A sudden drop in the air or a warm, comforting wave.

Scent memories — A whiff of perfume, aftershave, flowers, or even cigarette smoke that has no physical source.

Songs — A track coming on at just the right moment, often with lyrics that feel like a message.

Objects moving — A picture frame falling, a clock stopping at a significant time, or a door creaking open with no one there.

Recurring symbols — Feathers in unusual places, coins where they shouldn’t be, or the same animal appearing repeatedly.

Dream visits — Dreams so vivid you wake up feeling like you’ve genuinely spent time with them.

Why They’re Not Constantly Here

Here’s the truth: part of love is letting go enough to let someone live their life. That doesn’t stop when someone passes.

Spirits aren’t here to micromanage you. They’re not here to observe your every move like some kind of celestial CCTV. They have their own journey to continue, and they respect your space as much as they want you to respect theirs.

When they visit, it’s intentional. It’s purposeful. And that’s what makes it so meaningful.

The Gift in Their Absence

Some people feel sad when I tell them spirits aren’t always around, but I see it differently.
If they were here every single second, you might not notice those moments when they do come through. The specialness would fade.

It’s the gaps that make the connections stand out. That sudden rush of love, the song that makes you cry, the feather you find on your doorstep — these are all made more powerful because they’re not constant.

How to Invite a Visit

You can’t force spirit to appear on command, but you can make it easier for them to connect:

Talk to them — Even just in your mind.

Pay attention — Keep an eye out for repeating signs and symbols.

Slow down — Give yourself quiet moments where you’re not rushing or distracted.

Ask clearly — Say, “If you’re here, show me in a way I’ll understand.”

My Experience in Readings

In my own work, I’ve seen spirit come through in a split second — and I’ve seen them hold back until the moment was right.

I remember one reading where a man’s late wife stepped forward only after he stopped challenging the process. She waited until his guard was down, then came in with a memory about the way she used to put sugar in his tea even though he said he didn’t want it. He burst into tears — not because of the tea, but because it was such a private, intimate detail.

That’s what spirit does. They don’t waste time. They come through with love, with meaning, and with the kind of proof you can’t fake.

The Bottom Line

So, are spirits always around you? No.
But can they be with you instantly? Without a doubt.

They’re not gone. They’re not out of reach. They’re just living differently now — and when they want to, they’ll step back into your world for as long as it takes to let you know: I’m still here.

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Are Spirits Always Around You?